The Voice that's Always with you

What is this voice? That’s always with you? Whose voice is it? Yours? God’s?

Have you ever noticed how always when you’re about to do something wrong there is this tingling voice/feeling in your head that makes you feel you shouldn’t do it? Where is this voice coming from? Is it the god speaking to you through invisible channels? 

Well, no. It’s the voice of your pre-conditioning. It’s the voice of your subconscious that has formed over the years after receiving infinite inputs over the years. Your parents raised you telling you what is right and what is wrong, the society in general pitched in, and as you grew older, you started noticing people’s reactions to various actions and made your mind up about what is right and what is wrong. This is the voice in your head. 

Have you ever noticed that sometimes people from a completely different section of the society as yourself may do certain things very comfortably that may be unimaginable to you. It could be a poor child running on the streets - abusing somebody else left, right and center. You see this and you are horrified. How do you think this happened? Maybe his/her parents never taught him/her about polite social skills because nobody taught them either. So their inner voice does not have this concept that they shouldn’t be abusing. Definitely not the God’s voice now, is it? 

Now let’s try and understand the role of this voice in our lives. What do you think it does? 

It’s the voice that shows up in everyday moments - when you’re deciding whether to work out or scroll through Instagram, whether to speak up or stay silent, whether to give yourself grace or beat yourself up for the 100th time.

That voice? It’s shaping your entire life. Here’s how it usually plays out.

You have a moment of uncertainty. Let’s say you’re feeling lost about your next step in life. Nothing feels clear. You’re overwhelmed, and honestly? You just want to tune it all out.

Now… enter the internal dialogue. If your mind whispers,

“You can’t figure this out. It’s too hard. Just chill and watch TV, maybe tomorrow you’ll magically feel better…” What do you do?

You switch on Netflix. Maybe scroll. Maybe snack. And life stays exactly the same. But imagine if the same moment of confusion was met with a different voice. One that says—

“Hey. I know things are messy right now. But let’s just try one thing. Why don’t you write down everything in your head? Let’s see what we’re working with.”

So you grab a notebook. Start writing. It’s a mess at first. But slowly, you start seeing patterns. You find words for things you didn’t even know you were carrying. And you realise - hey, this one piece? Maybe I can figure this part out.

That’s momentum. And it started with one internal sentence - from the inner voice.

I’ll give you another example.

You wake up in the morning, already tired. You look in the mirror - which voice greets you?

“Ugh, you look so bloated. You didn’t do anything productive yesterday. Honestly, what are you even doing with your life?”

Or—

“Okay. You’re tired. But you’re still here. And maybe today, we do just one small thing differently. Maybe we just go for a walk, start the day differently. That’s it. No pressure - and see if it helps.”

Both voices lead to very different lives. And no one hears them but you.

You don’t need to wake up tomorrow with a 10-step plan to change your life. You just need to become a little more aware of how you speak to yourself, of the voice in your head, of the preconditioning that’s trying to condition your future.

Start catching that voice. Is it being kind? Is it being honest? Is it helping you move, or is it keeping you stuck? Catch it in the act. Catch it and change it.

Change it to say what will lead you to the life you want. Change it to say something that a true friend will say to you - somebody who will be firm, yet kind - and pull you in the right direction, instead of keeping you comfortable.

Change it to say what a therapist will say to you. Change it to say what your younger self will say to you. Change it to say what ‘your version that believes in yourself’ will say to you.

Change it. Control it. Because you absolutely can. And you absolutely must. If you want to live a life different from the one you’re living right now. Because this voice - this internal voice - it just wants to keep you safely in your comfort zone. And it’s on you to change it. 

Take the first step - listen to it actively. Catch it. Today. Question it. When you thought about getting up and going to the gym, why did it say “Chorr na. Kal dekhenge”  Why? And what will it lead to? What will happen if THIS voice is in the driver’s seat your entire life? What if this voice’s thoughts and opinions drive the outcomes in your life? What would it lead to? Where will you be - tomorrow? In a year? In 5 years? In 10 years? Where?

Jai Jinendra